I think of myself as the Obi-Wan to your Luke. I'm there to sweep the path in front of you to make it as easy as possible for you to step into the next evolution of yourself.
No matter the path you pursue, you'll get the tools you need to succeed.
After our time together, you'll...
Stop ruminating about work --
No more ruminating on all the work you have to do. You'll focus your brain's energy on the most important actions to achieve your goals.
Enjoy your morning cup of coffee instead of downing it before you leave for the office --
You'll reconnect with yourself and in the process reconnect with what's most important to you: living your life on your terms.
Leave the office when you say you will --
Instead of procrastinating or negotiating with yourself, you'll take action. You'll be able to leave the office when you say you will, so you can hit the gym.
Feel more invigorated at the end of the workday --
You'll feel invigorated instead of exhausted because you'll have a brain focused on the most impactful actions getting you quicker results. That means more energy to have connected quality time with family.
Take a vacation without taking your laptop --
You'll feel at peace because you'll know how to create a boundary and honor it. No more resenting people because you said "yes" to something when you really wanted to say "no."
Over 6 months we'll meet each week to refocus your brain on what it needs most.
You'll get clarity on what you want, then we'll make a game plan to achieve it with ease instead of stress.
Doing that means working on your mindset.
Your brain is used to doing things the hard way: hustle, hustle, hustle.
Mindset work doesn't mean you're not taking action.
It means you're learning to focus your brain on taking the most important actions instead of wasting time on the non-essential.
When you do, you achieve your goals faster and with more ease.
You evolve yourself into the person you want to become.
Self-doubt doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
It means you see possibility.
When lawyers come to me, they often feel a lot of self-doubt.
They've read all the books and listened to all the podcasts, but nothing has changed.
"Shouldn't it be easier?"
"Is there something wrong with them?"
There's nothing wrong with you.
It's the method we've been taught to improve ourselves that's flawed.
When we were kids, we were taught reading the books, listening to the teacher, and regurgitating what we learned would get us the outcome we wanted: an A.
The same pattern repeats itself in law school and when we work for someone else.
There's always someone outside of us telling us what the "right" thing to do is, and that will result in getting a gold star.
Because of this flawed method of education, our brains rely on someone outside of us to give us the answer (a book or a podcast), then we'll get the outcome we want (an A).
This method leaves us searching for outside validation and the "right" way to do something.
We search for the "right" book, podcast, training class that will educate us.
Being educated isn't the same as implementing what you learn.
It's not the same as choosing evolution.
There's a different process for transformation which requires critical thinking, curiosity, and the willingness to be uncomfortable.
This is VERY different from what we're taught in school and in the workplace.
Our brain feels like a fish out of water.
We need to retrain our brain to adapt to this new environment.
You'll apply what you learn, weave it into your every day life, and feel more comfortable in your own skin when we work together.
You'll no longer search for outside validation that you're doing things "right" because you learn how to trust and validate yourself.
Ready to evolve yourself and how you practice the law?
We only fail when we give up on ourselves. Clearly you haven't given up on yourself because you're here reading this email.
There's a reason you're here. You want something. What is it?
If there was no such thing as failure, would you go after it?
When we don't go after what we want, there's one thing that stops us: our feelings.
We only do or don't do something based on how we think it will make us feel.
What stops us from going after what we want is the feeling we think we'll have if we don't get it.
Failure. Disappointment. Fear of judgment.
When I work with my clients, they learn emotional resilience to help them move through these feelings instead staying in inaction because of them.
They learn what they need to move through their feelings and make clear decisions based on what they truly want.
I had all those same feelings and needed to learn to navigate them as I left the law.
No matter your goal, no matter what you've tried before, I can help you.
✅ I have hearings that pop up out of nowhere. What if I need to reschedule?
As a former prosecutor, I understand that lawyers sometimes get last minute hearings, assignments, etc.
When this happens, we reschedule our session for another time during the week or add it onto the end of your coaching package.
This isn't a problem.
✅ What if my life is a 10 now, but I want to uplevel my life even more? Can you help?
Think about where you are right now. Now imagine that's only a 7.
We can't even imagine what's possible for us until we start doing the work to expand ourselves.
✅ Do you coach men?
Yes! If you're a lawyer, I can help you.
✅ What topics do you coach on?
Anything under the sun. The way we do one thing impacts how we do everything, so it's natural topics other than the law come up too.
Here's some topics that come up when I'm coaching clients:
building a new practice area
hearings/speaking engagement jitters
difficult conversations with spouse/family
and so much more
✅ Are conversations confidential?
Of course! While we talk about your thoughts about partners, clients, and cases, we don't name names. Also, I don't share specifics about anything we talk about unless I get explicit permission from you to share. You'll never have to worry about someone "connecting the dots" to figure out who or what I'm talking about.
✅ Is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy is past-focused while coaching is future-focused.
A therapist generally asks about your past and helps you work through unresolved issues impacting your present.
Coaching starts with your present, and it focuses on creating the future you want. We uncover the mindset leading to undesireable outcomes in your life, and we work through those to help you achieve your goals.
I've had clients in both therapy and coaching, and they found them complementary not redundant.
✅ I want to work with you, but shouldn't I be able to figure this out on my own?
This was a big one for me, and I see it with my clients too.
My question to you:
How much longer are you willing to wait to figure it out?
If you haven't figured it out on your own by now, doing more of the same won't help you change.
I was working as a criminal prosecutor when I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 29. When chemo seemed like a vacation compared to the law, I used that diagnosis to evolve my life. Now I help lawyers who may feel stuck, overwhelmed, or find themselves procrastinating on their dreams step into the next evolution of themselves.